Thank you for again coming back to The Takedown, and considering my blog worth reading. Before we get to today’s subject, let’s establish a few things, right off the bat shall we?
- I have never read any of the Fifty Shades of Grey novels.
- I have no intention of reading any of the novels
- I have no intention of seeing the movie
That being said, I feel it puts me in a position that allows me to look at the books from the perspective of a more neutral point of view; I have no personal bias (I loved the books/movie, hated the books/movie) to color my view. I am able, when I see the sound and fury in the media over the books/movie to step back and begin examining what all the fuss is about. Perhaps it’s just harmless. Perhaps it’s not. For me, however, when I begin to come across a number of articles and papers written by professionals in the domestic abuse field and, in the case of the article I am going to link here, Child Protective Services fields, it begins to make me sit up and take notice. I have come to believe there is sufficient reason to take a good, hard look at these books and see if they really are just “harmless mommy porn” as so many people write them off, or something far more dark, masquerading as “a liberating sex story.” (Consider that, for a book so “liberating,” seemingly few mainstream feminists endorse it – and by that I don’t mean the ‘We hate men’ crowd; I mean women who are genuinely interested in seeing equality and equity) I encourage you, the reader, to do the same. Look up articles, pro AND con, see which present reasoned arguments for their point of view and then make your own decision.
For me, my decision came when an author made the following statement, speaking of the female lead in the book: Ask any of the women living in the nightmare of being stalked, harassed or living in a battered women’s shelter how successful they were in ‘loving the man out of his abuse,’ as happened in the book. Ask them how realistic or romantic it is.
For you, it may be something different – but please, if nothing else, read the article linked below. I believe it casts a light on the books that, whether the author of the stories realized, intended it or not, is something that stands to make us all take notice.
God bless, my friend.